Becoming a tough encourager
Published 9:48 am Thursday, April 26, 2018
Years ago, before becoming a pastor, I was perilously close to being fired.
My job as a manager began with such promise. I moved the family from Richmond to Virginia Beach for what seemed to be the opportunity of a lifetime. I was in charge of a thriving metropolitan automobile dealership. At first, everything seemed fine. But it wasn’t long before sales declined and problems appeared. Yet, I was working harder than ever. What was wrong?
My boss would have been justified in finding someone else to run the dealership but instead he chose to have a meeting with me. Our talk became a turning point that changed my philosophy of leadership and helped me understand the importance of becoming a tough encourager. At one point, he said: “You are usually on the sales floor talking to customers.”
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“Yes, sir.” I answered, thinking he would be pleased. “I try to meet everyone personally and be involved in every sale.”
He paused for a moment and then said: “So, why do I pay the salaries of 12 sales people when you are doing most of the work? Unless something changes, I will either have to fire all of them or I’m going to have to fire you.”
What could I say? The boss discovered my critical weakness. By insisting on doing most of the selling I was limiting our efforts to my capabilities and my energy. One individual no matter how talented can only do so much. However, one person leading a team can accomplish miracles. Over time, I would find out this is true in business, sports and churches.
The writer of Hebrews sums up the whole purpose of being in God’s church: “Without wavering, let us hold tightly to the hope we say we have, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near” (Hebrews 10:23-25).
In other words, our primary calling as Christians should be to: 1. Hold tightly to our faith. 2. Encourage others to outbursts of love and good deeds. Encouragement is so much more than merely giving a compliment. To encourage means: “To inspire with courage, hope or resolution.”
What I received from my boss was definitely not a compliment but what he said inspired me with courage, hope and resolution. I call it tough encouragement. I left his office that day determined to be a team builder and an encourager. A valuable lesson.
As a manager, I learned to spend more time encouraging employees to treat people honestly and fairly. I still enjoyed meeting customers, but our work became a team effort utilizing the best of our gifts and talents for the good of the business. Being an encourager also helped me stay employed. As a church leader, it is even more important for me to foster teamwork and offer tough encouragement. Like most organizations, churches have plenty of hard workers, but need more people who are willing to encourage others to outbursts of love and good deeds. Only then will we begin to act as a team filled with the power of God’s Holy Spirit.
We are all called to hold tightly to our faith and to be tough encouragers. I still enjoy working with others, but my ministry at the church I serve has become part of a team effort utilizing the best of all our gifts and talents for God. Paul said it clearly: “If your gift is to encourage others, do it!”(Romans 12:8) By the way, being a tough encourager still helps me stay employed. Praise the Lord.
REV. LARRY E. DAVIES can be reached at larrydavies@sowingseedsoffaith. com.